7 Signs You’re with the Right Person
© Jan Tik
It is a generally accepted fact among the more romantic personalities that there is a soul mate out there for each of us. These remarkable people could come from any direction and are destined to swoop down, steal our hearts and change the course of our lives. When we find love, the emotion is based on so many intricate coincidences and unforeseen obstacles that the idealism of the 'soul mate' theory does sound a bit far-fetched. But whether down to fate or otherwise, there are those who make us happier than any others, those who fill our hopes and dreams, those who we have an almost ethereal connection to and those we feel a guaranteed long-term compatibility with.
But how can you tell when you're with your metaphorical 'soul mate' and when you're with someone unsuited for the long term? Here a few pointers to help you decide if you're with 'the one' – whether you believe in fate or not:
1) You talk in terms of 'us' and 'we'…
Listen out for the pronouns in daily conversations. When you're planning something or having a general discussion, how are you describing each other? If you're both automatically using 'us' and 'we' rather than 'me', then that's a good sign. It means you're naturally thinking as a couple rather than individually.
2) You shape each other's future…
When thinking of the future, all of your plans, schemes and dreams should gel together and sit compatibly. If you have a desire to move to Australia or an ambition to start your own business, they should be in full support of you, as you would be for them. If you're putting your partner into your future, chances are that they'll end up there.
3) Your friends and family approve…
They've been there for all the highlights – the ups and downs, the ins and outs, the one with the eccentric laugh, the one who lived really far away. And although you may hate to hear it, because of this they may actually know better than you. They can judge coolly and critically and spot flaws that you may have ignored through the heady emotions. So, if they do approve, chances are that this really could be the one.
4) You've stopped thinking about anyone else romantically…
You've stopped stalking your ex on Facebook, stopped trying to catch the eye of that hottie on the bus and generally stopped having any romantic feelings towards anyone but your partner. If you meet an attractive, humorous and generally perfect guy, you'll only be thinking about setting them up with someone. If these symptoms seem familiar, then that's a true sign you're with the right person.
5) You've adapted to each other's interests…
Whether you've met through dating sites or through friends, you're always going to start off with some different interests. A willingness to share each other's interests can often be a good indication of lasting compatibility.
6) You want to fix things when they go wrong…
Every couple has arguments. The important thing to think about is how you deal with them. Do you want the conflict to be resolved? Are you willing to admit when you were wrong? If you've got the determination to endure every conflict, then you're sure to be able to endure in the long term.
7) You can be yourself…
If you're hiding some of your strange habits from each other, then that's a bad sign. With 'the one', you should completely and utterly be able to be yourself – quirks and all.
If you can identify all of these signs in your relationship, you may have found your soul mate… If not, then they're still out there somewhere – keep looking!